What nature tells me about me…and you

As I sit on the shore of a beautiful lake in northern Michigan framed with with huge oak, maple and beech trees swaying in a hefty wind, I realize once again that one of the sweetest, and often most profound, things to me about our learning community, Scholars Together, is our setting three days and two nights each and every week in the woods. So many of our life-serving gleanings, discussions, and metaphors have come from our quiet moments and observations on the paths in the forest and along the winding and ever-flowing Huron River.

Ahhh, such important lessons we have learned together here about who we really are!

I just happened upon some notes that came from an exercise we did a few years ago, each in our own journals, about some of the truths we had pondered and taken in from our times in the woods. I hope to stumble upon the notes from the students’ journals, as well, but these were the ones from mine. They make me even more eager to start our year together amongst the whisperings of nature and feel that kinship with the forest that brings us close.

Here were my journal scribblings from that day:

  • I can stand tall and firmly rooted like a tree — what others do and say doesn’t have to hurt me, change my stance, or make me sway
  • I can be flexible like the trees, too, bending and curving when it feels right to do so in order to meld with others or to see new perspectives — or to go in new, wiser directions
  • I constantly ebb and flow like a river…sometimes with power and other times gently
  • I can be tough and strong like the path that gets walked upon each day, supporting journeying footsteps
  • I can let things go like the trees let go of their leaves
  • I can let my true colors show like the leaves do in the fall
  • I can find hiding spots when I need them, like the rabbits do when they sense danger
  • I can let my beautiful self, the pure expression of my light, shine like the gorgeous pink and purple sunrise
  • I can find my own important place to stand and BE in this world like the cattails do in their crowded patch near the river
  • I can let my qualities grow and branch out like the branches on a tree that spread out far and wide
  • It is natural for me to reach for the Light, just like the trees do in a forest
  • I can melt and be soft when it is time, like the snow melts when it is time
  • I can know that it is okay to be different, just like the pine trees that keep their leaves when the other trees lose theirs
  • The soft moss growing on a big strong tree is like me…vibrant, soft, humble, warm
  • I have a current moving inside of me like the river does that doesn’t stop — it just shows more sometimes than in other times
  • I need to be nurtured, to have light and space to grow, just like the trees
  • In order for things to grow they need the decomposed materials to create the soil and make it rich…just like I need my past mis-takes and experiences to help me grow and bloom
  • Sometimes there needs to be boundaries in our lives, like the fence, the river bank, the bark on a tree, the edge of the path
  • When I see the water in the river so gracefully and matter-of-factly glide around the large rocks and logs stationed in its path, it reminds me that I can go around, up, and over many of the obstacles that come my way, too
  • I can know that the sun is always there, even during the times I can’t see it…that there is a Power that guides me and sustains me every day, even when I can’t see it clearly
  • The light WILL come every day.  I can know this on the days that seem dark… and that I welcome those experiences that turn me towards the light, to search for it

…..oh, there are SO many more that can be added to this list! This is just a spattering — won’t you share YOUR nature lessons with us?

Tien Stone Langlois, Scholars Together Learning Community

photos by B. Jay Langlois

Finding common ground in order to come together

Greetings fellow thinkers, Truth seekers and lovers of our world,

I came across this blog this morning, as I was doing more pondering about new and effective tools that might help us come together in deeper ways as a community in Scholars Together, and in other communities to which I belong, as well as in our world community. I love the author’s focus on mindfulness, forgiveness, giftism, and truly listening to one another with an openness that fosters seeing other perspectives without so much judgment…with the motive of understanding and loving one another. It was posted today, July 2nd by Shari Swanson. The photos are part of her blog, as well. Be sure to click on the blue links for stories of others who have found common ground amidst some major challenges. This is a longer article, but for me, it was well worth the extra moments. Thank you, Shari!

I have taken the liberty to italicize or highlight some of my favorite parts or ideas, ones that give me pause to ponder and incorporate them more into my own life. Feel free to do the same and share your thoughts in our reply section. What follows is Shari’s blog from dailygood.org….Tien

“Sometimes it’s just a matter of finding a little common ground, and then building a relationship on it.”        Susan Gale

Spotlight on Finding Common Ground

Tensions run high. Sides are polarized. Even attempts at neutral, innocuous conversations seem stymied and fraught. How can we reestablish connection in our fractured communities? How can we reengage in conversation? How can we move forward together into our shared future? In this Daily Good Spotlight on Finding Common Ground, we take a look back into past features offering advice on how to come together and consider some stunning examples of people who have been able to overcome seemingly insurmountable differences to find common ground. Key to establishing connections among people and within communities are improving communication, focusing on common passions, and forgiving each other.


To find common ground with another person, we need to truly listen to each other, to lay our weapons down, and to actively try to see things from another point of view.

Ohio Congressman Tim Ryan thinks mindfulness can help:  “It’s hard to be nice to somebody if you’re stressed out of your mind – when I’m short with someone or I’m not listening to them the chances are that my stress levels are higher than they should be. So to be able to calm yourself down a little allows you to listen to what the other person is saying, as opposed to preparing what you’re going to say next while they are still talking.” He believes mindfulness “would start to change the way we look at the world and how we interact in our personal and political relationships. We might listen to each-other a bit more, and become a bit more creative and open to different solutions. Maybe this could even be the beginning of creating an alternative vision for what the country could look like, what our schools could look like if they really emphasized social and emotional learning, feeling safe, and managing our emotions as the first step to being a successful student…. Bringing a touch of mindfulness to turn down the heat a little can open up conversations where we actually sit down and think instead of just yelling at each other. A lot of people don’t understand mindfulness, but when you talk about slowing down and being in the present moment they get enthusiastic, across partisan lines. It’s about participating in your own health care, in education, in politics, and becoming more resilient, and there’s no reason why people should rule this out because it doesn’t fit into their political philosophy. As the Rev Jim Wallis says, we don’t have to go further to the left or right, we just have to go deeper, deeper into the water where we are connected rather than staying in the waves or the surface of our differences.”

And we have to be unafraid to ask questions and to learn more from people with whom we are unfamiliar.  Mansoor Shams is a 34 year old U.S. Marine. He’s also a Muslim whose family immigrated to America when he was just 6-years-old. In “Ask Him Anything: This Muslim Marine Wants to Bust Myths About His Faith” from PBS News Hour, Shams travels to 4 western U.S. cities to combat prejudice and open up a dialogue about the fears and prejudices people may have about Muslims and immigrants, often finding common ground with those who stop to talk to him.

The more we view each other as people, rather than stereotypes, the more the channels of communication open and fear dissipates.  To truly understand another person, we must try to walk in their shoes, to see life from their perspective.  On this quest, we can look to some remarkable empathy role models from the past: St. Francis of Assisi, the son of a wealthy merchant, exchanged clothes with a beggar to truly feel what it was like to be poor. Beatrice Webb “stepped out of her comfortable bourgeois life and dressed up in a bedraggled skirt and buttonless boots to work in an East London textile factory.” Her experience opened her eyes to the workers’ side of the story. John Howard Griffin crossed the racial divide, eventually writing Black Like Me, a book that helped millions understand what it was like to be a person of color. He said: “If only we could put ourselves in the shoes of others to see how we would react, then we might become aware of the injustices of discrimination and the tragic inhumanity of every kind of prejudice.” Others have crossed cultural and age divides to experience for themselves what other people experience in their lives, transforming their own lives in the process into becoming advocates and agents of social change.

Common Interests

Sometimes we spend so much time focussing on our differences with someone else that we lose sight of what we have in common–a love for great literature, for example. A high-powered attorney might not have much in common to talk about at length with a homeless man, but the common element of a good book can bridge that divide: “So I gave Robert a copy of a book I really loved called ‘Water for Elephants’ and we would talk about that,” Peter said. When they realized how well the book group opened communication and helped them get to know each other, together they started the Homeless Book Club: “They meet every Tuesday in a church conference room. Peter buys the books. In the beginning he offered to bring in lunch too, but the members said “no thanks.” They wanted this to be about more than just another free lunch.”

Sharing a community and a desire to see it flourish is another place to look for common ground. In fact, a sense of community is vital to our health.  Feeling like we belong and can contribute our gifts to a greater good gives us a sense of purpose. “To forge community then, we must do more than simply get people together…. Community is woven from gifts.” And that shared sense of community builds on itself: “On a less tangible level, any gifts we give contribute to another kind of common wealth – a reservoir of gratitude that will see us through times of turmoil, when the conventions and stories that hold civic society together fall apart. Gifts inspire gratitude and generosity is infectious. Increasingly, I read and hear stories of generosity, selflessness, even magnanimity that take my breath away. When I witness generosity, I want to be generous too. In the coming times, we will need the generosity, the selflessness, and the magnanimity of many people. If everyone seeks merely their own survival, then there is no hope for a new kind of civilization. We need each others’ gifts as we need each others’ generosity to invite us into the realm of the gift ourselves. In contrast to the age of money where we can pay for anything and need no gifts, soon it will be abundantly clear: we need each other.”

John F. Kennedy said, “Ask not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country.” That mindset shift fosters patriotism. Indeed, moving from a sense of what we can get to what we can give, “giftism“, builds community and is generative and transformative for all touched.

Of course, engagement, generosity, and community-building are not the norms of today and may even buck the status quo that tells us relationships and services can be monetized, that we don’t need each other. But many people share this common fire to bring about a more productive cooperative: “There are millions of citizens who refuse to succumb to what their more cynical neighbors call “reality,” who insist with their lives that there has to be a better way – and who day by day go about bringing it into being. What makes them tick? What enables them to see beneath the surface and work for the common good rather than simply for their own private welfare? What inspires people to act from their own sense of a larger integrity even when it means going contrary to the status quo? And how can these circles of compassion widen?”

One commonality among these change makers is that they recognize that someone was there to help them in the past in life-changing ways: “Sometimes this made the vital difference between a life shattered and one healed.” They “were characterized by a particular capacity for connection, an ability to draw others around them into communities of comfort and challenge.” They are open to compassion: “The key lies not in our suffering, but in our ability to use it to connect with the pain of others. Held poorly, our torment seals us off from others or disables us; held well, awareness of our own pain enables us to resonate with that of others and work toward the healing of the whole community.” These leaders refuse to separate into us/them thinking, but instead find common bonds between all people and recognize that the community is a construct of the whole rather than a vision of any one leader.


Desmond Tutu  believes that by letting go of past hurts, we can heal, not only ourselves, but also our families, communities, and world. Forgiveness is “an invitation to be courageous and to go against the grain of the sense of radical separation that makes violence possible. Forgiveness is more than a concept; it’s an experiential recognition of our common humanity, which has the power to heal both the victim and the perpetrator.”

Forgiveness has the power to breach seemingly insurmountable divides. Mary Johnson‘s son was murdered. Forgiving her son’s killer was no easy task: She told him, “After you left the room, I began to say, ‘I just hugged the man that murdered my son.’ And I instantly knew that all that anger and the animosity, all the stuff I had in my heart for 12 years for you — I knew it was over, that I had totally forgiven you.” She went on to found From Death To Life: Two Mothers Coming Together for Heal­ing, a support group for mothers who have lost their children to violence and has formed an unlikely bond with her son’s killer. That act of forgiveness has been transformative for both of them.

Similarly, Julio Diaz reached out to the young mugger who robbed him, first offering him his coat as well, and then sharing dinner together. This forgiving response changed the whole dynamic between the two. Diaz says, “If you treat people right, you can only hope they will treat you right. It’s as simple as it gets in this complicated world.”

vision and the doors of perception

I was graciously greeted this morning via my email with this short video by Karmatube and this quote by William Blake: If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite.

It felt like a friend was visiting me as I watched the video clip and pondered the quote that reminded me so much of a childhood story we would read and talk about often as a family. It was about a house with a window of multicolored panes that portrayed different and beautiful views of the scene outdoors, but unrealistic views, because of the different colors of the glass. There was just one pane that had clear glass in it, but even the view from that pane was distorted when the pane was dirty. There were so many ways my mom used that story with us as metaphors for things going on in our lives and how taking the time to “clean” our view was so important. Thanks mom, I use that so often.

I love how Blake’s quote reminds me to take the moments to get silent and think about how I am seeing, perceiving and processing the views around me. Do my windows, my perceptions, need some cleaning? Is the view distorted by a tightly held opinion or standpoint, or even a world trend? Is the pane (or pain) I am looking through clouding my thinking or ability to hear new ideas, clearer direction, to see reality…even spiritual reality? Is there a bubble or misrepresentation in my looking glass? ah…I love this type of questioning within myself and to be able to see how clearer, cleaner, unobstructed views will help my day unfold with more realistic views about myself, others and my world…and where those wiped-clean “out-looks” will lead my footsteps today.

And then…how inspired I am to watch and think about the short video clip mentioned above. It fits so well with the quote and committing to a  moment, or as you see the video – a moment turned to many moments, to ongoing mindfulness moments, to kindness challenges, to community outreach, etc. in a previously-thought-unlikely workplace. I LOVE it!

From time to time we do mindfulness, gratitude, and kindness challenges at Scholars Together that always lead us so easily to more moments of reflection, self-examination and improvement, more thinking of others and our world, and being better stewards of our community. We are currently involved in a 21-day eco footprint challenge that is fun, eye-opening and causing us all to think and re-think our daily habits and purchases that affect our mother Earth. Feel free to join us here if you would like. There are 2088 members so far from around the globe.

And yet, I know that I/we can do more. The financial company in the video did SUCH evolving from their first simple commitment to begin their team meetings with a simple minute of silence. That minute took on a life of its own, a vital life, an inner and expanding life and view that has led this company, not only to go further financially than it thought possible, but to give new and clearer views to its team members that has spread to their families, new clients and communities.

So… I thought we all might use this as part of our inspiration to find ways to add more thoughtful or reflective moments to our days, to our family meals or meetings, to our team meetings at work and school, to a variety of group openers, etc. and see where it can lead us. Are you in?

Please share your thoughts, ideas and ways that YOU will and are integrating this commitment to a quiet moment into your lives, families, work and communities. Let’s look forward together to clean and clear views along our paths.

Tien Stone Langlois, Scholars Together Learning Community 

The way of water…the flow of the river

I just love this and wanted to share it. It came to me at such a serendipitous time, just hours after a weekend spent in mindful meditation and contemplation with others as we were together appreciating the flow of the river. Our collective goal became to flow as a river in community, to feel that, to BE that.

The following selection is borrowed with consent from a recent blog by Ursula LeGuin, which  is well worth the read in its entirety. It is  excerpted from the post  The Election, Lao Tsu, and a Cup of Water.

The Way of the Water
by Ursula LeGuin

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We have glamorized the way of the warrior for millennia. We have identified it as the supreme test and example of courage, strength, duty, generosity, and manhood. If I turn from the way of the warrior, where am I to seek those qualities? What way have I to go?
Lao Tzu says: the way of water.

The weakest, most yielding thing in the world, as he calls it, water chooses the lowest path, not the high road. It gives way to anything harder than itself, offers no resistance, flows around obstacles, accepts whatever comes to it, lets itself be used and divided and defiled, yet continues to be itself and to go always in the direction it must go. The tides of the oceans obey the Moon while the great currents of the open sea keep on their ways beneath. Water deeply at rest is yet always in motion; the stillest lake is constantly, invisibly transformed into vapor, rising in the air. A river can be dammed and diverted, yet its water is incompressible: it will not go where there is not room for it. A river can be so drained for human uses that it never reaches the sea, yet in all those bypaths and usages its water remains itself and pursues its course, flowing down and on, above ground or underground, breathing itself out into the air in evaporation, rising in mist, fog, cloud, returning to earth as rain, refilling the sea.

Water doesn’t have only one way. It has infinite ways, it takes whatever way it can, it is utterly opportunistic, and all life on Earth depends on this passive, yielding, uncertain, adaptable, changeable element.

The flow of a river is a model for me of courage that can keep me going — carry me through the bad places, the bad times. A courage that is compliant by choice and uses force only when compelled, always seeking the best way, the easiest way, but if not finding any easy way still, always, going on.

A Meditation

The river that runs in the valley
makes the valley that holds it.

This is the doorway:
the valley of the river.

What wears away the hard stone,
the high mountain?

The wind. The dust on the wind.
The rain. The rain on the wind.

What wears the hardness of hate away?
Breath, tears.

Courage, compassion, patience
holding to their way:
the path to the doorway.


Would you like to join me in this meditation and” flow as the river” as we each weave through our days and journey… staying pure and free, staying authentic, yet yielding, continually transformed, adaptable and rising? Add a comment below if you would like to part of our community flow and share what this will look like for you.

shared by Tien Stone Langlois, Scholars Together Learning Community

prepping our children for life …with love

As many of us probably did yesterday on Valentine’s Day, I thought about love…for my family, for friends, members past and present of our STLC community, and for the world. And I also thought again about what love means…is it strong? permissive? Does it ebb and flow? Is it hard to do? etc. and etc. I read recently that love is an action, not just a feeling or emotion. I like that.

I got to thinking about the real love (often what some call tough love) it takes to really prepare our children for life in this world, to help them to feel confident and eager to participate in this world with vigor and with all the practical know-how it takes to care for themselves and their world, …and the love, patience, and stick-to-it-ness it takes to show our kids through OUR actions what it means to be in a relationship that actually works and is nurturing for all parties involved! I really like to think on these things and practice them.

It was cool because during my ponderings I came across this article about things kids should do on their own before they are 13 years old. It seemed so in line with what I was thinking about and what we believe and practice at Scholars Together. It is yet another list of some practical things that we can do as parents and teachers (we all are teachers if we have any interaction with kids). For those of you who are Duct Tape Parenting fans, it will sound, oh, so familiar.

Click here for the article that contains the content mentioned above. It is from Red Tricycle.

It would be great to hear your thoughts, ideas, and experiences on this topic.  Perhaps we can start a community chat?

Tien Stone Langlois, Scholars Together Leaning Community

communication with a magnet

I was browsing last night in a vintage store, which I always enjoy. I came upon several U-shaped magnets, the old fashioned kind that we used in school long ago. My grandfather gave me several of different sizes when I was about 6 years old and I enjoyed many, many hours seeing what they would attract and repel and which ones were the strongest. Sometimes I had to use both hands to pull them apart because the attraction was so strong. These memories brought a smile to my face and innards and I found myself experimenting once again with the magnets in the store. Fun!

Then on the way home, quite serendipitously, I was listening to an article about attraction, which nudged me to think about that word “attraction” in some new ways. I thought about those magnets and the different things that they were and were not attracted to, and also how strong the pull seemed to be with certain materials.

This got me to thinking about things that I am attracted to and how strong the pull seems to be at times. Some of those things have been good or interesting or brought needed learning or beauty…like the pull of the ocean, mountains, trees, music, deep conversation, bright colors, whimsical furniture, new technology, etc. Other attractions have not been so good and have also been harder to resist, to pull myself from. I found myself deciding that I wanted to be more aware of what attracted my attention, thoughts and actions and make choices…to know that I have choices and not let so-called human nature or non-thinking lead me.

I have certainly thought about this topic before, as one of my favorite mindful precepts has to do with mindful consumption – what we take into our thoughts and our bodies. But these current thoughts about attraction and having played with these magnets were giving me a bit of a different perspective, a more hands on view. Thoughts were coming to me in a concrete way such as, …” What are the things I am attracted to AND what choices do I make about them? How often do I find myself doing something and then realize it isn’t something that will bring about goodness, freshness or peace? Or when I watch a TV show or am reading a magazine, is it because I have made a conscious choice to do so for reasons that I am feel content about? Is the activity or conversation taking my thought in a direction I want to go? Or is it leading me to think about things that are unimportant, divisive, violent, or uncomfortable?” I even thought about conversations I have had where I felt pulled without much awareness to talk about another in a way that was less than kind or in a tone that wasn’t how I wanted to portray myself or align with my true nature.

So my questions for today are: If I am magnet, do I realize that I am a magnet with choice? AND am I making choices that serve me well? How about you?

after thought: I imagine that most of us have these types of conversations and musings with ourselves often, and that they lead us on to big and better ways to live our lives. I realize just how much I love pondering ideas and looking for the many lessons this Universe continually has in front of me (all of us) of which to partake. I am so grateful that these magnets spoke to me tonight …and that I listened.

Tien Stone Langlois, Scholars Together Learning Community, Inc.

mindful moments in the woods

We each went to our own secret place in the woods near RiverHawk for moments of mindful awareness very early on Friday morning. These are some of the mental images and memories that came back with us… things that we saw, heard, and felt.dscn0353

  • thick blades of grass with dewy hairs
  • bird noises all around me
  • the smell of wet grass and soil
  • lost acorns scattered across the ground
  • the mist from my warm breath floating through the air
  • the small peep of sunlight through the trees
  • the feel of the moist air on my skin
  • the waddle of a ground hog as it scurried across the field
  • the shade of the trees slowly receding as the sun rises
  • soft brown leaves on the ground
  • soft moss on the tree stumps
  • the distant screeches of a jay
  • steam floating up from the riverdscn3001
  • the peaceful river
  • little and big spider webs
  • big and small trees
  • plants peacefully growing in the moist soildscn0348








  • a little toad sitting so still
  • squirrels looking around for food
  • the sunshine making things look happy
  • me, sitting still and feeling calm
  • the flowing river
  • so many types of birds and bird songs
  • the river’s terrain…trees and cattails surrounding it
  • bugs scooting around on the water
  • the feel of a smile starting on my face because I am alone in the woods
  • trees, more trees, all kinds of trees…tall
  • grasses of different colors_dsf0011
  • the smell of the air
  • cool breezes
  • chipmunks and birds doing their own rapping
  • perfect temperature
  • light blue sky
  • bird tweets, squaks, sandhill crane bellows
  • bird vines, repeating and repeating_dsf0011
  • serrated leaves, pointed leaves, dark and pale green leaves
  • rushing water sounds, water gliding over rocks
  • bubble colonies floating on the river
  • cool air on my face and in my in-breath
  • mist rising from the river_dsc5586
  • completely still lily pads
  • reeds and cattails all standing so still all crowded together
  • wispy clouds, one shaped like a crescent moon
  • ever so slightly moving clouds
  • a toppled over tree from long ago with its arm-like branches reaching up
  • a red winged blackbird perched on the the very tip top of a river weed, perfectly balanced



I am so grateful that we have this space (mentally and physically) each week to commune with nature, to feel the wonders of our Mother Earth and all she provides.

Tien Stone Langlois, Scholars Together Learning Community

True Nature qualities got me up the mountain

I had an experience a week or so ago where I was able to use the True Nature qualities that we explore at Scholars Together (and the vibrant nature around me) to help me get up steep hills at high altitudes on my bike in Colorado.

IMG_5127So, I love riding my bike and love the mountains, and yet I have not had a lot of opportunity nor practice these days at riding hills and mountainous terrain. And yet I couldn’t resist a relatively short bike trip with my husband from our campsite at almost 9000 ft. elevation to check out another camp site near another part of “our” rushing river. So off we went. Our trip there was mostly downhill and it was great to feel the breeze as I glided down the hills with the enormous trees and jutting rock mountains on both sides of the winding road. I could hear the rushing river and smell the dry pine and sage all around me. Yes!

IMG_5132We got to our destination and enjoyed each moment of exploring this new site and the beauty and refreshment that the river running through it shared with all who were there, fly-casting fishermen, rock climbers, horse back riders, campers, bikers, etc…all drawn to the natural wonders, beauty and grace of this area.

As we headed back to our campsite I realized that our trip was practically all up hill, and for me it looked like all fairly steep inclines. I felt a sense of dread and actually fear and was already breathing hard after just a short time. My husband stopped and asked if he could help, but I told him to go on ahead, that I would work this out. I stopped and crossed the road where I could sit on a rock for some moments and hear and see the tremendous rushing power of the river as it carried the snow melt from up above. I could feel its surging power from where I sat, and my thought just went to the qualities I could see in action…power, thrust, energy, flow, harmony, etc.

IMG_5141I felt a bit more comfortable to get back on my bike and get going. It wasn’t long before I felt exhausted and kind of weepy, wondering why I had taken this trip. Thoughts came that said I was unprepared, out of shape, that this was just too hard, that I couldn’t do this, and that the altitude was making it hard for me, too. Then I heard that river again – powerful, flexible, beautiful, purposeful. And the mountains that were all around me seemed so much more than their jagged rocks and peaks – they were strength, foundation, steadfastness, permanence, and solid. I began to realize that I am those qualities, too…and more.

Our Scholars Together True Nature list, that tells us who we really are regardless of whether we see those qualities out loud in the moment, had all of those same qualities that I was seeing so clearly in nature around me. I began to claim those qualities for myself in that moment – I am brave, calm and competent and eager, energetic, optimistic and enthusiastic…I am full of potential, motivated, steadfast and trusting. Yes, I was biking up a hill that was out of my current practice experience, but I was also these qualities and could draw on them right now.

I felt mentally and physically buoyed up, and though I was not going at great speeds, I was going…up! And from time to time the wisdom that was also me, reminded me to get off my bike and walk for a bit. Other thoughts that came from time to time that I should hurry and catch up with my husband or try to look more like a real biker, soon subsided and I became more grateful to express yet another of our True Nature qualities – being in the here and the now. I felt grateful, unhurried, able and free from the thoughts that would try to hold me back.

IMG_5200I was reminded of what I have asked many of the Scholars students as we learn and practice our true nature: When it is a cloudy day and we don’t see the sun, where is it? What is it doing? And we always end up agreeing that it is where it always is, doing what it always does with all of its gusto, even though we do not see it…just like our True Nature qualities. And I was experiencing all of that right here, on this glorious bike ride in the mountains! The doubt, fear and no-way-can-I-do-this-ness (the clouds that try to hide the sun) had vanished and I, thanks to the Nature surrounding me and its amazing expression of itself, was all of a sudden back at our camp site feeling grateful, peaceful and nourished. Yay!

I see once again the many ways that we can cling to and affirm our True Nature and see it take us where we need or want to go. There are reminders all around us of this innate nature of ours and I will be looking for them. How about you?

Click here if you would like to view our current True Nature List. It is an ongoing list that we add to as we glean more of who we are.

by Tien Stone Langlois, Scholars Together Learning Community, Inc.

Are you tapping into your innate mental strength?

Yay, Steph!

steph mug shot       We have been blessed for several years at Scholars Together Learning Community to have Stephanie Ruopp work with all of us in many venues… all that focus on     supporting our community, students and staff. Her           efforts often revolve around her natural inclination and love of writing, editing, and creative expression while steering others towards that path, too. Besides coaching,   mentoring and editing with Scholars students, she does lots of writing on her own, including articles, blogs, and other tidbits, including her latest work. We are so happy that others are seeing more of her just-plain-talented self and thought we would share this link of her most recent published work and also her blog site.

Thanks, Steph, for these helpful reminders that are encouraging and show doable ways to continue on our path of nurturing our mental strength.

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Some snippets from this year at STLC

jack on waterI am struck in this moment by a sense of beauty, innocence and the zest of life I see in our students as I watch the slideshow I put together for our recent Family Sharing night. As parents and teachers I think we have such a sense of ahhhhhhh, gratitude and satisfaction when we see our children have opportunities to get certain needs met… curiosity – the need to know, freedom, creative expression, feeling needed and heard in a community, and to see the efforts of their research and learning pay off in ways that actually show.

As I watched and re-watched this slide show offering, I felt a deep sense of happiness for what I know lives in these students ALWAYS and how satisfying it must feel to them (even they might not appear to be outwardly aware of it) to be able to BE with others in real ways while discovering who they are, what their talents are, what works and doesn’t work, and that this life is not always easy, that we often need to work for what is really important and gratifying.

I invite you enjoy this slideshow for what it brings to YOU, and to also let it conjure up what you feel is REALLY important for your/our children…in this world that would try to carry us off to an incessant desire for more entertainment or an absorption in self. What is important enough to desire and cherish it SO much for our children that it becomes what WE live and model?

Tien Stone Langlois, Scholars Together Learning Community, Inc.

Thank you, Earth mother

IMG_0265Each Friday morning at STLC we take a mindful hike. It is a time of quiet and individual interaction with and appreciation for the nature around us in all its forms. We walk slower than usual, are more aware of our footsteps on the earth and we are especially awake with all of our senses to everything around us. There is a sweet solitude and a sense of spirituality that pervades this quiet journey on our own, though we are together. It is definitely a feast if one is attuned, especially after a rain or a snowfall or as the sun rises.IMG_0304 IMG_0303 IMG_0302 IMG_0300

This past Friday was Earth Day so we doubled the time of our morning walk and added even more gratitude to our goal of awareness…gratitude for all that our Mother Earth gives us each day and the constant lessons she provides about how to live together in freedom, beauty and harmony by being who we are and seeing how necessary that is in the scheme of things…letting our true colors show forth, feeling our rootedness, flowing around and over obstacles that come our way, turning and bending toward the Light, feeling our natural going forward-ness, etc.IMG_0296 IMG_0289 IMG_0288 IMG_0287

When we returned from our mindful hike, we each took five more minutes of quiet to jot down our immediate thoughts to this prompt — Thank you, Mother Earth… These were the responses:

Thank you, Mother Earth for the silence of the fog, the sudden chatter of a frightened bird, a chorus of peeper frogs through the morning mist, the honking of geese overhead, sandhill cranes rattling in the distance, the variety of green in moss, the brown lingering leaves from last fall, the harmony of morning songbirds, dew drops handing on spiderwebs, tree trunks supporting smaller life, fresh flowing water, the colors of a red-winged blackbird, the early spring arrival of buttercups…Jay IMG_0255IMG_0280 IMG_0278 IMG_0267

Thank you, Mother Earth for the clear and peaceful water, the moss that grows on trees, birds flying through the mist, swans sitting so peacefully on the water, the fresh, cool breeze, all the different sounds the birds make, the peaceful and interesting swamp, the trees who help us breathe…CarsonIMG_0256 IMG_0251 IMG_0250

Thank you for dew drops hanging off the trees, leaves that never fell in the fall, LOTS of new skunk cabbage, birds singing, moss stuck to trees, the foamy water at the dam, fish in the river, discolored bark on a dark tree, perfect spider webs, spider webs with thousands of little strands with no obvious pattern, trees with knots in them that look like eyes, knots in trees that are imperfect but still beautiful, mist rising on the river…David

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Thank you, Mother Earth for air, trees, moss, skunk cabbage, rocks, leaves, grass, water, animals, birds, wood, bark…Jack

Thank you, Mother Earth for the beautiful green moss, the forests, the rivers that feed the Great Lakes, the trees that cover the land, the fish that swim in the rivers, the fallen trees to climb on, the sounds that relax us, the paths that guide us, the swamp that is home to animals…Tyler IMG_0227 DSCN3389_editIMG_0224 DSCN3406

Thank you, Mother Earth for fish, frogs, fog, water, new flowers, tall trees and climbing trees, leaves and branches, all the birds, and everything wonderful…Charlie

Thank you, Mother Earth for bright green, wet moss, grooves of unfolding skunk cabbage, bird calls and choruses of bird chants, sounds of distant flying geese, winter-worn walking paths, yellowed, bleached-by-winter leaves still hanging on some trees, stagnant swamp water perfect for water bug skating, drops of last night’s rain clinging to wispy branches, a distant woodpecker on his mission, bright waxy yellow flowers, reflections of shore trees ever-so perfectly played on the river water, a curvy-necked swan in the foggy distance, green moss bursting with several shades of bright green moss on tree stumps, scents of freshly composted earth that is wet and pungent, ready-to-burst-forth-and-show-their-beauty-and freedom buds on so many trees…Tien DSCN3398_edit


I know there was much more that we each could have written, but I wanted just the first impression as we returned, while we were still each in our own embrace of nature. These walks and their lingering after-thoughts always remind me of the importance of taking moments EACH day to commune with our surroundings, to see that we ARE a part, and to be grateful for sweet and beautiful things that are newly seen on our familiar paths.





Tien Stone Langlois, Facilitator, Scholars Together Learning Community, Inc.


Where is your focus?

Below is a blog by Seth Godin. He writes a blog every day that shares a perspective worth looking at, no matter what your career. One can subscribe to his daily blog for free and enjoy the benefits of a new view and some good self-evaluation each morning. This one came today and I just love it …and thought that you might, too.

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Focus is a choice.

The runner who is concentrating on how much his left toe hurts will be left in the dust by the runner who is focusing on winning.

Even if the winner’s toe hurts just as much.

Hurt, of course, is a matter of perception. Most of what we think about is.

We have a choice about where to aim the lens of our attention. We can relive past injustices, settle old grudges and nurse festering sores. We can imagine failure, build up its potential for destruction, calculate its odds. Or, we can imagine the generous outcomes we’re working on, feel gratitude for those that got us here and revel in the possibilities of what’s next.

The focus that comes automatically, our instinctual or cultural choice, that focus isn’t the only one that’s available. Of course it’s difficult to change it, which is why so few people manage to do so. But there’s no work that pays off better in the long run.

Your story is your story. But you don’t have to keep reminding yourself of your story, not if it doesn’t help you change it or the work you’re doing.

This reminds me of so much of what we do, ask ourselves, and practice at Scholars Together Learning Community. Questions like: Where am I headed? What am I looking for? Is what I am doing actually working effectively to get me where I want to go? How can I actually tell? What am I REALLY focusing upon? Am I willing to do the work that it takes? Am I hoping to enjoy the benefits of my work, or am I hoping someone else will do the work for me? Do I want to feel that indescribable joy of accomplishing something I set out to do?  Do I want to feel that sweet “rightness” in my heart that comes from changing paths because it is a better idea, even though I had started down another? Where is my focus — on the past and on mistakes OR on the lessons and my new sense of direction or goal?

Thanks, Seth, for these ideas and for your consistent work that helps us look more deeply at the simple and yet important things.

Tien Stone Langlois, Facilitator – Scholars Together Learning Community, Inc.

standpoints and perspectives

They say a picture is worth 1000 words...11807218_982105915145151_8852565252900145452_oin these ponderings I will use only 500.

My daughter sent this photo to me yesterday. I really liked the image…it’s colors, depth and serenity. I let her know how much I appreciated it. She said that if I turned it upside down it looked like a bridge over the water. Ah ha, yes it does. And I remembered a sentence by Ursus Wehrli: “I like to turn things upside down, to watch pictures and situations from another perspective.” Yes, I like to do that, too!11807218_982105915145151_8852565252900145452_o
Then the thought came about how different all scenes and situations look and feel when we look at them from a different perspective, and mentioned to my daughter how interesting it is when we take a life situation and see it in reverse or from a different standpoint. As in her photo: a dock becomes a bridge, or a challenge becomes an important lesson, a closed door reveals another open door that leads us to something better, or a misunderstanding leads us to the truth.

That reminded me of a conversation I had with a young girl this week when I was explaining to her what we mean at Scholars Together when we talk about our True Nature. We talked about the qualities that are true about all of us, our innate nature regardless of whether we see these qualities expressed in the moment or not. They are the qualities that really embody who we are…grace, peace, wisdom, responsibility, gentleness, joy, wholeness, and so many more.

As an example, I shared with her that on that very day it was cloudy outside, that I couldn’t see the sun at all. And yet I KNEW it hadn’t disappeared. I knew it was right where it was supposed to be, doing exactly all the good and important things that the sun does, even though I couldn’t see it happening at that moment. All I had to do was to remind myself of that fact. We shared with each other that there may have been times when we did not feel happy or honest or calm, but that right there in the midst of that sense of not, joy, honesty and peace were really there and were who we really were and are.

We each chose some True Nature qualities from the list we use at STLC that we thought would be helpful to each of us for that day. We chose qualities that didn’t feel so evident right then and then affirmed them as our true nature. We agreed to acknowledge them several times in our day, which would be sort of like watering them and nurturing them…agreeing with that view of ourselves. We both felt happy to have this kind of view of ourselves, kind of like a fresh start.DSCN2378

Then that got me to thinking about another quote that I think of quite often: “Hold thought steadfastly to the enduring, the good, and the true, and you will bring these into your experience proportionably to their occupancy of your thoughts.” Mary Baker Eddy

I am so grateful for all the ways that we share helpful thoughts and pictures with each other…thoughts that lead us to a new perspective and to the core of who we are. Thanks, Zoë!

by Tien Stone Langlois, Scholars Together Learning Community

photos by Zoë Stone-Hess Valentine and Jay Langlois

wondering and wandering

Not all who wander are lost.  

What will you wonder about and where will you wander this summer? Where will you explore? What new thoughts and ideas will you examine as they cross your path? What will you see, discover, and learn?   11 wooden path It can be such a sweet and satisfying adventure! We are eager to hear about your journey.

ahh…commUNITY mindfulness on the river


We are in the midst of a 21-day mindfulness challenge AND mindfulness is also one of the attributes of our character quality focus this month of Honoring Oneself. Soooo we are learning, discussing, practicing and teaching each other in this area. We are all finding that BEing in the moment, noticing what is around us and what we are thinking, doing, saying, feeling, etc. is what makes us feel truly alive and present in each moment.

In this spirit of mindfulness, we set out Thursday morning before dawn on a mindful kayak trek. We all agreed that we would be quiet and just notice with our senses and with our inner selves all that nature would gift us on our journey. Everyone was  so cooperative with our intention. Yeah! There were several times as I gazed at students that I would see them gently drifting with paddles down and really drinking in all that was around them. My heart was touched.

What doesn’t show in the photos was that there was a very hefty mist arising from the river. At times we could just see only 15-20 feet in front of us. Sometimes I could just see a head of a student arising from the mist, and see only a faint vision of his or her kayak. It was SO quiet and it felt as though the river was beckoning us onward, and we trusted it as we paddled into the mist.

IMG_4401We were amidst swans, muskrats, geese, ducks, and even a heron over head, reflections that still shone on the misty water of tall trees at the rivers edge, and reeds and cattails standing silently nearby. We stopped several times to nod to each other in silent agreement that this was indeed a special experience. We formed some half circles and grasped a buddy’s kayak to stay still as we watched the moon so bright behind us and then the magnificent, but oh so gentle, sunrise ablaze with pinks and yellows. Just as the sun came into view, four swans glided so effortlessly on the water between us and the sun. It was a sight that I know is implanted in each of our minds.

IMG_4384When we arrived back to our lodge home, we all wrote for just a few minutes, attempting to capture on paper a bit of what we had experienced as we were awake and mindful to what was around us that morning. Below are some smatterings of our collection of memories that give some glimpses of the experiences of our morning.

  • the moon saying goodbye and the sun saying hello; swans floating; swans gliding so peacefully; silent and gentle swaying of river grasses; so many colors in the sky…where were they before?; calm water.
  • curved necks of swans; misty journey; mist rising from a winding river; peruvian-hatted heads rising above the mist; frosty lily pads; night moon watching the sun show its colors; four serene swans floating in a royal procession; frosty fingers grasping a chilled paddle handle; a lone swan leading us home; water droplets; dripping from paddle tips; bubbles floating and bumping into each other; remnants of yesterday’s wind skidding on the water’s surface; early morning fogged reflections on the river; hazy pictures of the trees painted on the river;
  • IMG_4393reds, golds, pinks—the tree’s TRUE colors showing themselves just a little at a time; a gray heron flying high overhead on a mission; the deep flutter sounds of geese flying in sync; all the shades of brown painted from the inside out on the river reeds; tall reeds standing perfectly still as we drift on by.
  • mist rising; beautiful day already; moon rising up and away.
  • sunrise; jumping fish; moon is going bye bye; people in different colored kayaks; mistiness of the fog; drop dead still water; frosty air; beauty; wonderful, amazing green trees; little miss sunshine; “Be.YOU.tiful” written on our sweatshirts; the sky is a painting; bright white light; swish, swish; green, green, green; orange, orange, orange; the world is full of light.
  • IMG_4381we watched the sun rise and the moon set together, it was beautiful; this moment is perfect and that moment was perfect; the sky was orange and the swans saw it, too; reflections on the water of the sky above; geese and herons flying by; best of all was the complete silence inside and out.
  • swans moving their necks so gracefully; the sunlight is rising; the moon is still showing itself and then fading away; fog covered river and lake; sun rays poking through the clouds and fog; the night sky is fading away; morning is being born from the night; seeing the moon and the sun at the same time.
  • sun god, moon god; God spilled His grapefruit juice; water and sky painting a picture together; birds early morning singing; wavy feathers of swans; calm water; paddling into the spooky mist; imagination running; happy people without words; numb fingers, needing gloves; array of geese; line of swans; head clouds; beautiful sunrise; warm water, cold air; smooth river clay; squawking geese.
  • IMG_4397moon setting in the mist; swans watching the sunrise; saturated colors reflecting on the water; chilly mist floating on the breeze; a swan leading us on our journey; autumn colors in the sunrise, full moon in the predawn sky; a kingfisher hunting for his breakfast; birds resting in the bulrushes; skimming through water lilies; paddles slicing the water; cruising through fog clouds; clear blue sky; crimson red grape vines climbing tree trunks; fish disturbing the glossy surface; mist falling over the weir.

IMG_4376It was truly a gift for us all, as is EACH time we take even just a moment to feel the kinship and beauty of nature and with each moment. We’d love to have you join us in our STLC 21-day mindfulness challenge at Kind Spring.



Tien Stone Langlois, Scholars Together Learning Community

taking important steps in the peace process

I feel so fortunate to have been a part of this year’s Scholars Together Learning Community’s Peace Treaty process. Each year it is always stimulating and inspiring to me, but this year seemed to be more so—due to the active and heartfelt participation of all involved.

community-2With the intention of creating a fresh and thoughtful guide for commUNITY living as we do each year at STLC, we started out during our first week’s living-together Teambuilding retreat, making a list of everything we could think of from our last year that we did NOT appreciate in terms of  how our commUNITY functioned. We all dug deep within to share little and big things that might have stood in the way of our community experiencing cohesive happiness, or actions that may have kept us from feeling really free to learn or to be our best selves—that had to do with the way we treated one another or the environment. That may sound like an unusual way to begin, but instead it really brought any uncomfortable lingerings from the past to the forefront that might have otherwise stayed riding below the surface or gotten in the way of a fresh and effective start of our year together. It turned out to be a cleansing activity for us all.

Beyond our collected list of about 40 items (which we shared with ONLY the motive of bringing awareness, not blame) we had insightful discussions, which culminated with EACH of us realizing and verbalizing that IF we wanted to see these changes in our community, that it was up to EACH of us to BE those changes. We could see that it was not helpful to blame others or wish that others would instigate the change, but it was up to EACH of us to be 100% responsible to act in the way or to treat others in the way, that WE wanted to see and feel. That is big…and this realization continues to be empowering.

So, after three weeks of discussion and honing our items so that we could list what we DID the-kindness-of-strangerswant to see, instead of what we didn’t want to see…and revising, reforming, reframing, and more discussion—we came up with our current (to be revised as the need or desire arises) Peace Treaty that is linked below. We all agreed that we are working towards our Peace Treaty eventually becoming just one sentence, that being what many call the Golden Rule—treating others as we would like to be treated— but in the meantime, many of us felt the wisdom to be specific about what that actually means, and to have some guidance as to what that really looks like.  Each item was added only after 100% consensus of our student and mentor commUNITY. That in itself feels really satisfying! Each student has taken our Treaty home, too, so that their families can adopt those items they want to commit to as a family commUNITY.

Click to see Our Current STLC Peace Treaty. You’ll be glad you did!

…In the spirit of integrating the intentions of our peace treaty into our individual lives, I share this sweet story: A dear friend of mine who has a dog, shared with me that she has been noticing what her dog does each morning when he wakes up, and that she thinks it would be a pretty good habit for us humans, as well. For me it goes along perfectly with how I want to BE in my community, in ALL my communities….and how and WHY I want to follow our Peace Treaty with care. She says that her dog wakes in the morning and stretches—noticing his surroundings, wags his tail, and then greets the very first person he sees with unconditional love. I love it!

upward-dogWhat if when we all awoke each morning (and throughout the day as we catch ourselves drifting) and stretched physically and mentally—reminding ourselves of our true nature that is constant goodness—and noticed our surroundings? Our tail wagging could be moments of gratitude for all that we have, intertwined with the expectancy of the important lessons and good the day will bring. And THEN, we greeted the first (and second and third, etc.) person we saw in ways that showed unconditional love. I can only  imagine that we would feel as though we really were living the life of peace and harmony!

This is going to be my new wake-up routine in the morning, and in the other parts of my day when I find that I have fallen asleep to the good that is right here, or have been sideswiped in some way to think that I don’t have everything I need in order to treat myself, others, and the day with kindness and with an open, grateful heart.

I am hoping that others might join me in this new morning routine inspired by our furry friends AND that you might take on the challenge and opportunity to adopt parts or all of our Peace Treaty in your commUNITY, too. Will you share your thoughts?

Tien Langlois, Scholars Together Learning Community

“Allowing” and appreciating one another

I absolutely LOVE this.


I might just add that there is one step I add to this type of seeing…that EVERYone has a true nature within that is kind, wise, powerful, intelligent, beautiful, gentle, and so much more. It just might not be evident to the seer in this moment. OR perhaps the seeds of True Nature might be in the process of getting ready to unfurl, to come forth into view. Can we see and imagine this potent, complete, fully-furnished and beautiful seed of potential and wholeness that is inside of EACH of us even before we see it bloom on the outside with our eyes? This is the north star of my spiritual practice…to KNOW it is there and to treat each person as such, including myself.

Tien Stone Langlois, Scholars Together Learning Community

Kindness Challenge

kindnessFor many years our Scholars Together commUNITY has started our year by hosting a “Be the Change” event for families and friends. It always proves to be an inspiring way to come together and begin our new year…pondering and sharing how and what EACH of us will bring through our own thoughts and actions in order to initiate the changes we would like to see in our world.

As we continue in this tradition this year, the event happening on Sunday, September 7th, we are adding a 21-day Kindness challenge to our mix of transformative deeds. We would love for YOU to be part of our ripple of kindness that is already spreading through Kindspring. Click here to join us in our kindness journey. Choose the Scholars Together challenge that begins on September 8th.

I have goosebumps thinking about the ripples of kindness and love that we can spread with this challenge. Here we go…


the constancy of our wholeness

flower2As those of you know who are familiar with Scholars Together, focusing on our True Nature is at the core of all that we do. We have seen such forward steps towards freedom and progress, such healing and new views of ourselves and others—and those heightened perspectives propel us all (students, parents, teacher-mentors) forward with new possibilities. Yeah!

I love how the following article by Carol Carnes is yet another window to the power and practicality of focusing on our True Nature, our wholeness that is ALWAYS there, even when we don’t see or feel it…like the sun behind the clouds—it is still there and powerful, and expressing all its sun-ness with vigor.  This is a great read to ponder. Yes!

Reveal Your Own Wholeness

–by Carol Carnes (Jun 30, 2014)

All mental healing is based on the awareness of the presence of pure Life, or wholeness, at the center of the patient. It is a calling forth, if you will, of that wholeness into visibility. It is not a “repair” of something broken, but an act of transcendence. It is the One that is always wholly at ease, taking precedence over the temporary manifestation of dis-ease.

We get better because there is something in us that is not sick. There is something about us that is not in lack. There is an aspect to us that is never confused or addicted or damaged. If that were not so, no one would ever recover or make changes in their life. Human life is a collection of stories of how we are constantly interacting with the higher nature of our own being! We get great new ideas and act on them. From where do they arise? We decide to clean up our lifestyle and find a great resolve in us, the will to stick to our decision. Where was that all the while we were succumbing to the addiction? Who goes to the AA meeting, the alcoholic or the One who is already clean and sober?

As we focus on what is True about us, we see the weakness of what seemed to be true. We only thought we had to be sick and poor and unloved. We believed we were powerless over our addiction. We decided we had to protect ourselves emotionally and could never have real love. These are mental states based on the illusion that we are at the mercy of effects. Then one day someone, perhaps, shows us how to tune in to the Cause that lives within us. That is the moment we take charge of our life. That is the beginning of transcendent living. That is when our mind is restored to its natural condition; that of formulating thoughts and ideas which automatically reveal our own wholeness in all areas of our experience.

Carol Carnes learned an ancient meditation technique in Hawaii that opened her mind and began the emotional healing she needed to find her own potential. Shortly after learning to meditate she was led to a New Thought spiritual center where she found the intellectual basis for what her intuition had been sensing as true and reliable. ​Today she is a New Thought teacher, an ordained minister of International Centers for Spiritual Living, a world traveller who has been in the company of HH the Dalai Lama and other world leaders in small group dialogues.

“I am because we are…”

I LOVE this for SOOO many reasons.

I found this posted tonight by “Mr. Finch” and it SO touched my heart. I feel such a kinship to this sentiment, to this way of being with one another. I am re-offering it here as something to read, consider, and chew on in hopes that we might partake of this innate community spirit more often. I love to discover new and old ways that people are loving each other—loving our neighbors AS our ourselves, finding that the dividing lines between us and them are not so defined, but pleasantly blurred…seeing that taking responsibility to be my best authentic self naturally includes grabbing the hands of those around me with joy. Looking for ways to be inclusive and loving naturally buoys all of us up— my community members and me, and vice versa. Love DOES make the world go ’round! Here is the post:

“An anthropologist proposed a game to children in an African tribe. He put a basket full of fruit near a tree and told the children that whoever got there first won the sweet fruits. When he told them to run, they all took each others hands and ran together, then sat together enjoying their treats.

When he asked them why they had run like that when one could have had all the fruits for himself, they said, ‘UBUNTU, how can one of us be happy if all the other ones are sad?’ (‘UBUNTU’ in the Xhosa culture means: ‘I am because we are.)”
                                           Osani Circle Game – taken by Jean-Pierre Hallet